Starting Out

For most of you, this is all old stuff. That is, you may have already set up your Female Lead Relationship, or taken charge of your sex-lives, or whatever it is you needed to do to get where you are today, relationship-wise. But for those of you who have been sitting on the fence, or trying to figure out where to get the inner strength to take charge, this may be what you have been waiting for.

Let's start at the beginning... Maybe your hubby has been after you to take charge. Maybe he has pushed one or more of my books under your nose in an attempt to get you to read them. Maybe you have even read one or two, but still haven't convinced yourself that you can actually do it. Well, you won't have to wait after reading this post.

Whether or not your husband has been after you to take the lead in one way or another, let me give you some tips in which you can approach this that fits in with your idea of how things should be. You don't have to live up to some Internet-driven image of what a real Mistress is. You don't even have to try and please your husband by doing what he wants. Instead, try doing a few things that YOU want to do.

Maybe you are not comfortable with the idea of becoming anyone's Mistress. But ask yourself, are you completely happy with the way things work in your house? Maybe you are intimidated when it comes to taking charge of things in the bedroom. Have you ever wanted your husband to do ANYTHING other than what the two of you have done up until now? Then pay attention.

Just imagine laying in bed while your husband gives you nice full-body massage. Maybe he could even follow it with a relaxing rub-down with a sweet-smelling oil. Maybe he could do all that without expecting you to let him “plow” your field, if you know what I mean. Have you asked him to do this?

I understand the reluctance of some women to make demands, sexual or otherwise, on their own husbands. But I'll bet dollars to donuts that he would be more than willing to do something like what I just described, if you would but ask. You don't have to “demand” anything. You don't have issue orders, or make demands on him. Simply ask for something soft and loving that you would like to experience.

Maybe, just maybe, after getting a taste of the tremendous power you hold over him, you might see things a little differently. That is, you may decide that being in charge, at least sexually, is something you would enjoy doing. But you will never know until you try.

Just ask your husband to give you that massage and make it clear that he may get nothing in return. You just want to be pampered for one night. See if that works. If it does, try it again next week, and the week after that. Pretty soon, you will discover how easy it is to get your partner to do whatever you want him to do to you sexually. Then it's only a matter of time before you realize just how far your control of him will go.

Mistress Ivey