Get Into It

After years of talking with folks, researching, and writing, I still hear the same old complaints. Men complain that their wives don't give them enough sex (teasing, etc.) and the woman complain that their guy thinks it's all about sex. Well, they are both right (in a manner of speaking).

While I am a firm believer that, for men, sex is one of the most important things in life. I also believe that they will always want more than they get. It's a fact of life. It's the way they were designed. I talked about this in all of my books. Men are, by design, sexually oriented beings. They will, if given the chance, beg, plead, hound, and cajole you to death to get more sex. That's why a woman must learn how to control all that.

Women, on the other hand, don't normally want sex nearly as often as men. Not, that is, until they discover how much fun they can have controlling a man with it. Before I discovered my “inner Mistress,” I hated the fact that all men ever think about (it seemed) was sex. But once I learned how to use that to my own advantage, I couldn't get enough myself. Why? Because I discovered just how much fun it can be.

Ladies, if you are still at that point where you get tired of being hounded everyday for more and more sexual activity, then you have not yet figured out how to have fun with it. Think about it... Don't you just hate trying to find ways of telling your partner that you just don't want to do it right now? Don't you just wish you could do or say something that would make him stop begging all the time?

Try taking control. You don't have to give in to his desires. Instead of you having to take the time to get him all turned on (as if he weren't already) and then let him poke you for thirty seconds to relieve his desires, try something different. The next time he starts his routine “hint dropping” that he needs sex, take control. Tell him that he can have all the sex he wants if he will do exactly what you tell him to do.

Once he agrees, you tell him to strip and masturbate for you. If you don't want to watch, don't. Watch TV or knit something while he does all the work. If you really want to have fun, stop him before he cums and tell him that he tried hard enough and that you will give him another chance later (or tomorrow). It's called tease and denial. The better you get at it, the more fun you can have with in.

So, Ladies, get with the program. Tease the hell out of your partner and he will repay you ten times over with love and attention. It's a win-win situation.

Mistress Ivey